Posts Tagged ‘mom to be’

Round up the usual suspects

As any fan of detective movies knows, any time there’s been a crime, the lead detective has to say “Round up the usual suspects”. It’s in the movie-making bylaws, look it up. One of the tests I had yesterday was a vaginal culture, to see if any of the usual suspects could explain, in whole or part, what’s been going on. I got the call today that I am indeed a victim of sorts, of something called bacterial vaginosis, or BV for short. In the interest of furthering education, here’s some solid information on BV taken from the Baby Center website:

What is bacterial vaginosis?
Bacterial vaginosis (commonly known as BV) — the most common cause of abnormal vaginal discharge in women of childbearing age — is an infection caused by an imbalance among the bacteria that live in your vagina. . Normally, “good” bacteria, called lactobacilli, are in the majority and keep other kinds of bacteria in check. You end up with BV when there are too few lactobacilli, which allows other bacteria to grow out of control. No one knows for sure what causes the balance of bacteria to change. About 1 in 5 women have this infection at some point during pregnancy, though estimates vary widely.

How does having BV affect my pregnancy?
BV when you’re pregnant may raise your risk for preterm labor and birth. Some studies have also linked the infection to a higher risk of miscarriage, preterm premature rupture of the amniotic membranes (PPROM), and uterine infection after delivery.That said, many women with BV have perfectly normal pregnancies. Experts don’t yet know why only some women with BV end up delivering prematurely. Some researchers think that BV may be just a sign of other infections or problems that lead to preterm birth. They do know that women who are diagnosed with BV early in pregnancy are at a significantly higher risk for problems than those who get the infection later in pregnancy.Having BV also makes you more susceptible to certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs), such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV, if you’re exposed to them.

What are the symptoms of BV?
At least half the women who get BV have no symptoms at all. If you do have symptoms, you might notice a thin, white or gray discharge with a foul or fishy smell. This odor is most apparent after sex, when the discharge mixes with semen. You may also have burning when you pee or irritation in your genital area, though it’s not common. Let your healthcare provider know if you have these symptoms. Before prescribing any medication for you, she’ll examine a sample of your vaginal fluid and cervical secretions to see if you have BV or another infection.

Like many women, I had absolutely no symptoms. Fortunately, the screen for this is simple. There’s actually one test that screens for yeast infection, trichomonas, and gardnerella at the same time. I’ve already gotten started on the antibiotic and I’m hoping this takes care of things.

I’m continuing to feel better today. I’ve not had any pain or cramps, and the only spotting is the familiar brown when I wipe. I’ve also had a pretty relaxing day. I was up around 8:30 but was still tired, so I went back upstairs and crawled into bed with Coz around 10:30. I must’ve dozed off to sleep because when I woke up it was 1:45 in the afternoon. I’m glad I managed to get some decent sleep. I’m hoping I won’t have any trouble falling asleep tonight. On another pleasant note, I’ve finished the first of many projects for the baby, a blanket I started some years back. Coz says it’s very non-committal, genderwise. My grandmother says we’re having a boy. Coz says he always felt if he had another, it would be a girl. Either way, I can’t wait to find out.

Spotting

So, last Thursday at work, I went to the bathroom and noticed a bit of brownish spotting on the toilet tissue when I wiped. Needless to say, I flipped out, even though I’m a nurse and know brown blood is old blood and is most likely nothing to worry about. I called the ob/gyn office and spoke to a nurse who confirmed there was likely nothing wrong. She explained to me that during pregnancy the uterus and cervix have a very rich blood supply and alot of different things can cause it to bleed, such as intercourse, infection, etc. We had intercourse the night before. My 1st appt was the following Tuesday, so I was advised to refrain from sex until my appt.

Things quieted down and there was no more spotting until yesterday afternoon, my 36th birthday. I think it was because I was trying to exercise in the pool and was working pretty hard at it. Again, the spotting is brownish, very little of it, and I’m not having any cramps or pain or anything. I am still nervous however, because I’m still having some spotting this morning and it’s turned faintly to pink. Again, it’s only a little bit, and there are no other weird symptoms, but still…..it’s nervewracking. My appointment isn’t until Tuesday. I’m considering calling 1st thing in the morning to see if they can fit me in tomorrow.

There’s a statistic out there that says something like 25% of all conceptions terminate in early miscarriage. That sounds staggering, but the thought behind this is that most people who miscarry don’t even realize they’ve been pregnant because it’s over so quickly. As harsh as it sounds, women miscarry for a reason. There are plenty of conceptions that result in damaged/defective embryos, and a woman’s body is designed to reject anything unhealthy. All that being said, I certainly don’t want to go through that, but knowing the medical aspect of it, I don’t think I’d be quite as devistated. Coz on the other hand, has had to endure two miscarriages. That’s why his children are adopted. My fear of disappointing and upsetting him is far greater than my concern for myself.

So, the trick for today is to try to keep myself from going crazy while I wait for tomorrow. I have no reason to believe there’s anything wrong, this is simply just a normal variation of a pregnancy. We actually told my parents last night at dinner (my 36th birthday!) and my mom told me she had spotting when she was pregnant for me. I do know plenty of people who have either spotted or bled their entire pregnancy. I was fortunate to not have any with Jesse, so this is new to me. It’s funny, it doesn’t matter how much medical knowledge I have, or how long I’ve been a nurse, or how many stories I’ve heard with positive outcomes. It’s not easy to keep a positive mind when it actually happens to me. We’ll see what the day brings. I can see lots of MASH episodes in my future today, and not much else. Ugh, the bathroom is upstairs; I hope Coz doesn’t want me to avoid the stairs and stay in the bedroom all day (although I would in a second if it’d make him feel better). I’ll keep this posted.

from humble beginnings

OK, here’s the deal. I’ve been with the same INCREDIBLY WONDERFUL man, Coz, for not quite 3 years now. I tracked him down on the internet through Yahoo messenger. We chatted for about a month, had our first date the night before Thanksgiving in 2005. It was INSTANT karma, immediate attraction, like two puzzle pieces fitting together, snug as a bug in a rug. By the following January I had moved in with him.

He and his ex-wife have two wonderful children, who were adopted from Colombia. His ex-wife miscarried twice, early on in each pregnancy, and this is what brought Max and Gabby into their lives. They live with their mom, close by, about 8 minutes from our house.

I have one son with my ex-husband; I had him 5 days before my 22nd birthday. He’s an AMAZING person, and he’s changing so fast right now that he can’t keep up and neither can I. He just turned 13 yesterday. He lives with his father, about 30 minutes away. I’ll get in to the reasons why later on.

When Coz & I first got together, he had talked about us having a child. Back then I was dead set against it. About a year later, I was talking about us having a child, and he was dead set against it. So….earlier this year I started thinking about it again, and I reasoned that we should at least try for 6 months and what happened, happened. He agreed, and 3 months after having my IUD removed, I’m pregnant!

Oh god…..I’m pregnant.

Now what??? I mean, what was I thinking?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m thrilled, but I’m also terrified. I’m a nurse, I work at a family practice office so we have newborns right on through to elderly patients and when a call comes in about little babies I don’t know what to tell the parents. Sometimes I don’t feel like I’ve ever been through this before. Hell, Coz told me he knew I was pregnant before I did, and I didn’t believe the first test when I took it. My boobs are sore and full, I can’t fit into a few bras, and it didn’t occur to me at first why that might be.

We’ve decided to wait until the first trimester is over before we tell anyone. So naturally I spilled the beans at work to a coworker my first day back after I found out. I just hate keeping secrets!

I asked Coz to promise me that we won’t start calling each other “mother” and “father” because that creeps me out and reminds me of old people, so of course he’s been calling me “mother”.

So, I’m pretty tired now. I was on vacation last week but have been back since yesterday. I haven’t been sleeping the greatest for 2-3 weeks now, although it did get slightly better yesterday (it’s the hormones). I need to try to get some rest for tonight. So long for now!